1. Make clear what you are looking for online
Yes, you should know what you are looking for clearly and directly. This means that if you are in Xpal, you need to disclose that you are not there to find your child's mother (preferably sooner or later). That doesn't mean you should tell a woman, "Hey, get a boyfriend." On the tinder free site, it's like taking out your chicken and slapping it on the table. Would you do that? No, because it's going to ruin dinner. Don't be rude to women just because you can. Don't forget that women have many opportunities for casual sex, so you have to make a difference.
2. Be very careful when approaching fwb.
You don't want to go on a coffee date with a stranger to find a sexual friend. We fully understand. Why not go to the girl in your group of friends? You always think you can cut off chemicals with a meat cutter. Wouldn't it be great if you could increase your sex life in an outing? Uh, No. Maybe not. Sleeping with a friend is a serious minefield: you may lose that friend. Since the risk is so great, be sure to choose a friend you are not close to or often meet. We know rule 1 of FWB: don't capture feelings. The fact is that you are more likely to capture the feelings of people close to you. Be polite when approaching friends. It's best to throw them away and relax with a pint on her balcony in the summer afternoon. "So, Sarah, have you ever thought about what would happen if we were together? '
3. Encourage your potential sexual friends to tell you the truth, such as having a great one night stand.
You really get along well with this girl. Sex is exciting for you, but you're not sure if you're ready for something serious. A good opportunity to present a NSA situation, right? Do it - but be sure to discuss terms and conditions (you know, boring things that you often ignore can be bad for you). Send a good message (hey, Maria, thank you for your invitation last night. I hope we can do it again. Do you want to get together and talk? ''. Explain to her that you want an easy arrangement and ask what makes her comfortable. Is there a rule? There should be rules. The worst thing is to go to a party with your sexual friend and watch her break up with another man because you haven't discussed your relationship yet.
4. Don't be afraid to be too kind to her, because you are afraid that she will fall in love with you.
Yes, the traditional view is that you should not "date" your sexual friends. That doesn't mean you can't sleep together without sex, you can't send a bunch of peonies to work, you can't hold hands in a bad movie, but that doesn't mean you should run to the door right after sex to make her uncomfortable. She won't propose because you were very polite to her that time.